Are these four qualities evident in the love you give?
All love is demonstrated by simple acts of attention. When we are attended to (or receive attention - such as eye contact), we develop self-respect.
We all need to feel accepted by the ones we love. Their acceptance tells us we are decent, good, worthy, 'acceptable'. Acceptance tells us we can reveal and pursue our needs, desires and values and not jeopardize the relationship.
Appreciation is a truly healing component of love. We settle into our own worth and dignity when offered appreciation.
Affection usually includes some form of touch. To be touched (emotionally or physically) conveys the message that we are desired and lovable. Affection is essential for human development and a sense of well-being and ease.
It is wonderful to receive attention, acceptance, appreciation and affection and the sense of well-being they bring. Do you receive them from those who say they love you? Do you also freely give them - to your loved ones - especially your children?