Sunday, December 27, 2009

...consider these questions...

50 Questions to Jump-Start New Year's Reflections:

This is the time of year that some of us like to stop, reflect, take account, clarify what matters - and determine what no longer fits.....  Sometimes asking the right question nudges our habit-loving mind to see things in a new light.  Perhaps one or some of these questions may help you take a fresh look at your life.  Regardless, it is a fun exercise to kick off 2010.  Let me know which question tickles your fancy.  #21 and #27 tickled  Who knows which ones I will be tickled by tomorrow!  (BTW, there are no right or wrong answers.  This exercise is for you to discover YOUR answers.  It could be fun to compare answers or perspectives with family or friends...but remember everyone has their own way of looking at things at this moment in time.)

1.How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

2.Which is worse, failing or never trying?

3.If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

4.When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?

5.What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?

6.If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

7.Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?

8.If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

9.To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?

10.Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

11.You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?

12.If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?

13.Would you break the law to save a loved one?

14.Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?

15.What’s something you know you do differently than most people?

16.How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?

17.What one thing have you NOT done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?

18.Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?

19.If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?

20.Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?

21.Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?

22.Why are you, you?

23.Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?

24.Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?

25.What are you most grateful for?

26.Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?

27.Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?

28.Has your greatest fear ever come true?

29.Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?

30.What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?

31.At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?

32.If not now, then when?

33.If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?

34.Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?

35.Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?

36.Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?

37.If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?

38.Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?

39.Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?

40.When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?

41.If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?

42.Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?

43.What is the difference between being alive and truly living?

44.When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?

45.If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?

46.What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

47.When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?

48.What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?

49.In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?

50.Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

P.S.  Just had to share part of this comment from Wanda at Moments of Mine.  I think she has a fabulous idea and I intend to do the same with these 50 questions - could make for some interesting conversation, especially when with members of other generations.  Here is her comment:You express so many life improving thoughts here. Your post of "50 questions" will be asked of each other, in a game played by my family on New Year's Eve! Thank you for the list, Bonnie!

(Borrowed from Practical Tips for Productive Living by Marc and Angel Hack Life.  Found on


  1. twice in one day!

    Bonnie, those questions are either totally unfair or very apt at this time of year, depending on whether you want to take them to heart or continue living a less than conscious life.

    I ought to print them off and read them at least once a week, every time I slip back into the bad old ways.

  2. wow. great list...#50 caught me there at the end...and i think it ties into quite a few others...will peruse this one more later for a bit of reflection...

  3. Great questions, Bonnie. I will come back and copy them. Good work for the new year. Maybe one a day for the first 50 days.

  4. Pretty provocative, Bonnie! I tossed a few of these questions at my youngest son, some of whose answers surprised me. To #4, I got a rueful laugh out of him. And he's totally ordinary in that, I suspect.

    Thanks for another interesting post - some substantial food for thought in it.

  5. What a brilliant set of invariably make me think!!! And what a wonderful way to begin the week as we hurdle toward a new decade!!! Thank you!!! Happy New Year's dear friend!!! I am so grateful to have met you this year as well!!! You are talented, kind, compassionate...and truly a beautiful woman!!! Your words, art, and photos never fail to inspire me! I admire you very much!!! Love, Janine XO

  6. These are awesome questions! Over half are my favorite. I am definitely copying these. I am going to make myself answer each one. Some will take much longer than others, but all will teach me something about myself.

  7. Provocative questions for sure, Bonnie but almost too many for me to contemplate, particularly at this time of the year.

    I, for one, am determined not to make resolutions for the new year. I never do, other than hope that the year ahead will be a good one, whatever that means.

  8. 1. 12. Definitely 12.
    31. I'm happy to say that I did recently feel more alive than usual. A very cold, windy, rainy day, walking beside the sea. Wet hair and jeans. Glasses steamy and drippy. Physically a bit uncomfortable, but oh, so breathlessly alive.
    Do we have to go outside our comfort zone to feel this way? I think so.

  9. Wonderful, thought-provoking questions! Today #31 strikes me as an important question. I need to take note of what I'm doing when I feel passionate and alive..... and keep doing it. It's so easy to forget, is it not?

  10. great list! numbers 3 and 6 jmped out first, but then there were so many. I need to keep this list. i linked it to my fb page too. many thanks

  11. Yikes! If I answer all of those, I'll know far too much about myself. I've found that ignorance is bliss, and I'm usually quite blissful.

  12. Bonnie I love that you always make us think.

    Thank you for being part of the magic.



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