Thursday, September 3, 2009

are you guilty of this mistake?

 
A little quote by transpersonal psychologist, Frances Vaughn:  " . . . we may often mistake the record of what we have been, for a prescription of what we can become." 
Frances is telling us we are not our past, and should not allow it to determine our identity, nor our possibilities.
Have you done, or are you doing, that?                    Posted by Picasa

18 comments:

  1. I used to do that occasionally. But no longer; not since becoming a Christian and knowing how God views me! I have limitless possibility to become anything (keeping in mind my age now, mind you) with God guiding me.

    I view the mistakes I made in the past as only part of the picture that was being painted; some are finished and have become something beautiful; some are as yet unfinished but will become something beautiful. Scripture says that if we allow Him, God brings "beauty out of ashes".

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  2. Absolutely..how bad is that? I often gauge what is happening by what the past has dealt instead of realizing that that is gone and a new beginning is presenting itself. Great reminder, Bonnie. I definitely need to practice this quote.

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  3. I did. Before. But it's funny how you gain perspective as you get older.

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  4. As an historian, the past, in my mind, plays a role in our lives. But it should be as a teacher and not as an anchor.

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  5. Sure. I think everyone does that or has done that at some point. We can only go forward from what we were, what we knew. Then we reach a point, if our past hasn't worked as well as it could, things we've done that we wish we had done differently...and we learn from that. Some never learn from past errors, falls by the wayside. But if we want to move forward to something healthier we make the necessary changes. The past shapes us...it is what we do with that past that is our choice. Great quote by the way.

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  6. I did, I do and I will do again in the future. It limits me I know, hides from sight new pathways I could explore that would open new possibilities.

    So I'll try to be a little more open in the future, try exploring some of those hidden pathways, but habits are a hard thing to break.

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  7. I was that person...very deeply that person! I am happy to say somewhere in the last ten years full of life changing lessons..I have become someone else. Someone who does not let old tapes rule the day..or the future. Wonderful thought provoking post hon!! Namamste and hugs, Sarah

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  8. Moving up here into North Yorkshire upon retirement and then being widowed and marrying a "local" has cured me of that. The locals here have no interest whatsoever in what you may have done before you came here as an incomer - it is how you live your life up here that you are judged on. It quickly taught me valuable lessons.

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  9. I try to learn from my mistakes. But sometimes I think I have some learning disabilities!

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  10. Hi Bonnie :D
    I used to do that but not any more. As I get older I realize that I can make my life whatever I want it to be...I just have to be bold enough to step out and do it!

    Wonderful post!

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  11. Hi Bonnie,
    Yes, me too, as almost everyone else who has written in. However, I feel that one should not cut out any lessons to be learned or conclusions to be drawn from the past. My past is so much a part of who I am, even tough I have become a totally different person now, in the present. The circumstances of my life couldn't be more different, but I have only become this new person because I once was the other.

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  12. We are not our pasts, but they certainly shape us. We can choose to grow out of limitations and blossom into present fullness if we don't let the past set boundaries on our possibilities.

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  13. Great quote. I am trying not to limit myself. It's hard sometimes.

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  14. Actually, I believe we are our pasts. All rolled up in there. The only thing that saves the soup is what we continue to add to it. And, since reality is actually timeless, "past" is just a figment of our imaginations, isnt' it?

    EFH

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  15. I needed to read this today. Thank you for an excellent post.

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  16. I'm guilty of this more often than I'd like to admit even though I know my past can only color my present and future if I let it. But I'm still learning this toughie. Lately, the taps have become hard knocks. Great quote. I will write that one down. Thanks, Barbara

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  17. Someone who doesn't like their past may have to break from it...in order to move on and not be held back...but some may look back and be thankfull for a past that has brought them to where they are.

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  18. Oh my! I need to print out that quote at pin it up EVERYWHERE as a constant reminder! I am guilty beyond measure. I do think that I'm ever so gradually adressing this problem though. It's a definite challenge to shake off all the negative crap from the past, but I'm definitely making more of an effort to think positively about the future lately.I wish i had've come to some of these realisations sooner, and not missed so many opportunities due to my self destructive thought patterns. Sigh! Better late than never i guess!

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