Wednesday, September 9, 2009
After lunch he went back outside to finish his work, but now he was perched on a long, sliding ladder wielding his long pruning pole - balancing precariously several feet above the ground.
As I got outside, I saw that she was finally walking down the driveway, and out of our afternoon. Phew. I had begun to wonder if she would end up staying the night! Goodbye Gloria. As she walked off, I was pretty sure she was on her way to her other "friend" to swim in her pool. Glory be.
This incident got me to thinking about the difference between the values we espouse and the values we actually put into practice. I claim to be open, kind, generous, caring - and yet, as this story clearly illustrates I did not feel particularly open, overly generous, or very kindly toward this woman. She was a lonely soul, seeking company and yet I could not wait for her to leave. Yes, I do have other values such as respecting boundaries, and this woman clearly had no idea what boundaries are.
Yet, I often think about this seemingly funny incident - not so much about Gloria, but about my reaction to her. As you can see, I am still wondering about what the whole thing says about me. I still do not have clarity on this, as there are many values that collided in this situation. I thought you might get a laugh out of it, and at the same time have the opportunity to think about Espoused Values vs. Values in Action.
Have you ever thought about whether there is a disparity between what you say you value, and what your actions actually demonstrate you value? It is humbling to catch oneself behaving in a way that does not coincide with one's espoused values.