That last line..."the price of not loving yourself is high". Yes. It is.
Of course, I HAD to find out who this Jim Cohn was. Thank you again, dear Bonnie, for the direction! This guy is incredible. It always amazes me that we can go through life so close to one another, yet not make the discoveries until so much later. You are blessed, indeed.EFH
Very uplifting words Bonnie
Powerful message. But in dealing with fear--and I've had my issues with fear--I've found it much more helpful to take a less aggressive approach to it than to "stand on the neck of fearful mind." At least if we were to construe this to mean trying to suppress fear, well, good luck.Taking a friendlier approach to fearful mind, moving closer to what scares us and getting to know it has worked much better for me. I've seen it work, too, with the young children I work with every day. So, for instance, if you're afraid of snakes, rather than running away from them or standing on their necks, you can reduce your fear of them by getting to know them.
Beautiful words and food for deep thought and reflection.just lovely~~Calli
I'm with Dan. Standing on the neck of fear is both aggressive and non-productive. I think we have to make friends with fear and learn what message it holds for us. Let it know its warning is heard, that we thank it for alerting us to danger and things we're ill-equipped to meet. We can sit with it and ask it to help us take the next step. Fear is what makes our guts seize when something is not right, way before our brains get involved in processing. Why would we be aggressive toward something so helpful?
Beautiful and deeply true. Took me years to find this truth. Thank you for the reminder hon!!Namaste, Sarah
"Let yourself go into the Mystery."This is the joy of a life in awe, in quest, in pursuit of purpose - a life filled with discovery and exploration. So be it Dear Bonnie, so be it.
Dan & Meri:I so agree with you - we need to approach our fears, let them in, make friends with them - most of all inquire within to find the need or longing hidden within the specific fear.Jim Cohn, I know would agree with you too. Did you miss his previous phrase that "everything that comes your way is blessed"? That would, of course, include fear. He is not at all suggesting that one be aggressive. His words are inviting us to approach our lives from a place of love, from our hearts rather than from our fearful mind.He is suggesting that it will take some consciousness, some disciplined awareness to not allow fearful mind to govern our life.I'm sorry that you misread the intention of these words. The intent is to approach everything from a place of love, a place of honouring the mystery of what we don't understand and not from a place of being afraid of what we don't understand. But to do this, we have to quiet fearful mind. Tell it to take a back seat. Tell it we are interested in the information it brings us about specific fears, but that fearful mind cannot be the driver of the vehicle that is our life. I think Cohn was suggesting that sometimes to allow heart and love to rule our life we have to speak strongly to the fearful STATE, CONDITIONNING, PREDILICTION of mind. He was not asking you to repress, kill or bury specific fears.What if you re-read Cohn's words from a place of love instead of from a place of judgment or fear?Those may seem like strong words, but I think that is what Cohn was illustrating with his use of a strong image to illustrate what we must do to move out of an APPROACH to life - not what we must do with specific fears.Thanks for bringing this up as I am sure others could interpret it this way too and then miss the beautiful spirit of the rest of the words offered.
Sherry Lee:Yes, that line always grabs me too.
Expat From Hell: (I wish I knew your first name.) Yes, it is exciting when we find a person or a text that resonates deep within.
Weaver of Grass & Calli:I'm so glad you see and appreciate the value in the words for you.
Sarah:Me too! And I love having such a beautifully phrased reminder such as given by Jim Cohn.
Rose Marie:Your poetry always seems to embrace the Mystery as a precious part of life.
hi bonnie - everything that comes your way is blessed. yes. it's not always easy to see or feel it that way but with time and insight it all becomes much clearer. good words. steven
The words:The price is not high for loving yourself. Beautiful words. We must love ourselves in order to truly love others. Your words are always so uplifting and inspirational. Thank you.
Bonnie: THANK YOU for drawing my attention to the previous phrase, "Everything that comes your way is blessed." That does recast the idea, just as you say. And, yes, aversive emotions arise when our deepest needs go unmet. I think we're all on the same page here. My comment arose from having spent years trying unsuccessfully (DUH!!) to suppress my fears when it would have been more skillful and more effective to get to know them.
Dan:From previous comments back and forth on both our blogs, I was sure that was the case, and that we are on the same page. It happens to me too, to read something and see a word or too I don't agree with - and then to jump to a conclusion about the whole thing.I so appreciate your stops here and the insights you bring.
"You carry the cure within you" . . . LOVE that!
I want to share this with others! So well said and yes trueLinda
Hi BonnieI enjoy coming in late and reading these discussions.I too balked at that line and thought it discordant with the preceding one. I didn't want to read on because I disliked the aggressive image his words provoked. But I read on and was caught by the line:sometimes the threads have no weave...now that is great...we so much want things to fit, to belong, to understand them, to see them as a part of a pattern, to know how they contribute towards the fabric of life, and many times the threads have no weave until much later on and we can detect a structure or synergy in retrospect. But some threads never ever make the loom, they dangle off at the edge or drop to the floor...we never will know the meaning or the purpose of them...and that is ok too,thanks for this provoking poem and I will go and look up the poet later...Happy days
Delwyn:I'm so glad when people can remain open even through a reactive response - and still find value in what is there. How much value do we lose by closing off as soon as there is something we are averse to.Is that not the same as turning away from our fears - to turn away from what we dislike?Yes, sometimes it is appropriate to turn away from what we react to, even from what we fear - but as you say - not everything has to fit into our current categories. There is so much to learn if we can stay open.I love how much further you take Cohn's metaphor of threads. I think you will find him a very interesting person, when you look him up. I did and so did Expat From Hell.
Hello Bonnie, I take it all in and appreciate all that you're bestowing here. I really popped in to ask if your bronchitis has cleared and to say that I hope you're feeling better.Fondly,Alaine
Somehow, this morning Bonnie, I felt the need to re-visit Cohn's words and your post. ...his words "sometimes the threads have no weave"...this in particular strikes me and makes me contemplate further. O also love what Delwyn has said further on this. Just beautiful...thank you, Bonnie~ Your blog is a 'thoughtful' treasure to behold.~Calli
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