Saturday, August 15, 2009

Anais Nin Quote

Have you found this to be true? What situation in your life demanded the most courage? How did your life expand or contract in reaction to the courage you could, or could not, summon?


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21 comments:

  1. Bonnie, this quote, a befitting description of what consistently opens self to both validity and joy. Courage, I see as the responsive call to TRUTH. Confronting the consciousness of cancer has brought forth, 26 years to date, an ever expansive state of health, peace and gratitude.

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  2. My life is starting to expand now, I can feel it. Losing the only career I know for the past 23 years will surely force me to seek new realms and fresh outlook. Your quote is so fitting a description to my situation now.

    Thanks for reminding.

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  3. Getting Sam's diagnosis of autism. Couldn't fix it or change it, and had to learn that I could choose to curl up in a fetal position and surrender, or trudge onward living life as it was given to me.

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  4. Every time I changed occupations it took a little courage, but I have grown with each leap and am thankful for that "other me" that is often fearless!

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  5. hi bonnie - despite being perceived as something of a "free spirit", "loose cannon", "unpredictable" - all terms that have been used kindly by friends, colleagues, and family - i know that i could be so much more if it weren't for the little loud voice that says no or don't or why bother or all the other little words that carry so much weight. i'm happiest when i ignore it and go ahead even though i'm afraid. have a peaceful day. steven

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  6. I have found this to be true. When I'm afraid I consider whether it's smart fear or fearfear.

    When it's the latter, fearfear, I take a step closer and do what I scared of. I tell myself fearfear means I'm on the edge of experiencing something wonderful.

    Thanks for this quote. It's really true!!

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  7. First of all, thank you for stopping by the Bodhi Tree and leaving a comment. I'm not blogging much these days and was amazed to discover a new reader.

    The Anais Nin quote really struck a chord. Somewhere along the way, I think in college, I lost my confidence in my inherent talents and started to measure my worth against others, always with me coming up short. I somehow learned to be afraid and to feel threatened by the world. I recently started a job that involves a lot of chaotic, fly-by-the-seat-of-one's-pants moments and requires acting swiftly and decisively under a fair amount of pressure. This gave me a wonderful opportunity to tell the old fear-and-unworthiness shtick to take a hike and find my confidence again. It did take courage to expand in that manner, though, because it would have been really easy to use this opportunity to reinforce my long-standing attitudes.

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  8. Rose Marie: Cancer does elicit courage. Congratulations on a 26 year victory. What a feat!

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  9. Jayne:

    Ah yes - to summon the courage to meet the devestation of our children's challenges. And I bet there have been many golden gifts in so doing.

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  10. I_Am_Tulsa:

    It's so true that we are made up of many parts. We do have a fearful, childlike part inside. Often when I find myself caught there, I call on my courageous self to step up, and take over.

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  11. Steven:

    Yes we may have demonstrated courage in our lives at different times - but deep within, we probably all know ways that we have diminished ourselves and our lives submitting to our fears.

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  12. Dan:

    What a great nudge - to tell yourself the fear means you are on the verge of something wonderful - and thus to forge ahead.

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  13. Adrianne: I'm so glad you stopped by. Confidence in self does play a big role in whether we cave in to our fears or explore new territory - which demands courage.

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  14. If that is true, I think I need to cultivate a little more cowardliness.

    My courage is getting me int way too much trouble!!

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  15. Barry:

    Well, good point. Sometimes we need to forget about demonstrating anything and just be. We can always find grace and peace in just being.

    I find it sweet and poignant that you should be bringing the sense of humour to this post considering what you are going through. Maybe that's what you are gently leading us to: that occasionally we need our sense of humour more than we need courage.

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  16. Hmmm - I just love that quote..
    When I divorced 12 years ago, the cutody battle and the results left me on my knees. Begging and pleading for mercy. The courage to stand up and keep going despite my pain..expanded my world. The fear that resulted from it stunted it's growth. I am happy to say that I have managed to walk away from the fear and let it expand some more!! Wonderful post hon, Sarah

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  17. Sarah:

    Wow - you have been through so much. Thank you for sharing that.

    I remember accompanying my daughter for the court appearance about custody. The fate of little children in the hands of one person who only has a cursory understanding of the facts, the context, the history, the unexposed lies and manipulations. I believe going through such torture contributed to my daughter developing cancer a year later.

    But, as with you, she pulled herself up off her knees, dealt with having to hand over her children every other week to her ex, dealt with her cancer, and is now, as ever, as joyful and wonderful a mother as I've ever seen.

    When our children are involved there is just no question about finding the courage to do what we must.

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  18. Bonnie, the most courage I ever needed came to me in caring for my mother-in-law as she was dying. I learned that I am stronger than I ever believed I could be...because I had to be.

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  19. Hmmm...I'm not going with the situation that required the most courage (I'd leave a book in your comments section!), but I'd say finding the courage to 'step out of my nine dots' and make close friends took a lot of courage. I've always had tons of 'friends', but none that I would call close, other than my family. Having the courage to welcome people deeper into my life has expanded it so much. :)

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  20. Bonnie, thank you so for the sweet comment you left x my own life/world expanded when i at last learnt to love myself & live side by side with my sad times (my on/off depression) i learnt that it is part of the fabric of me, makes me who i am. x

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